DB had a huge function at work last night. He asked me to attend, but didn’t mean it or think I would show.
I did.
After much discussion with Lisa we agreed that I would show up dressed to the nines because SB would be there and it was her night to shine….she was responsible for half of the function and would really be in the spotlight.
So I left the kids with my father and drove all the way across town. Lisa was my constant companion on my cell as we
plotted and planned about what I was going to do, what I would say, and how I hoped it would go. When I arrived, with
some amazing confidence that I didn’t know I had, I walked straight up to the admittance table. *^*%$@#@# I thought to myself, I didn’t know that you needed tickets. So I put on my biggest brightest smile and explained that I was DB’s wife and he was having a ticket held for me.
ME: Is there a ticket for me?
Door greeter: No, tickets were presale only.
ME: Really, DB told me that I would have a ticket available at the door. May I make a donation for the cause?
Door greeter: No, go right on in.
Step one – I am in.
Step two – find DB
I walked around for a few minutes and then located DB in the distance. Shoulders back, I walked right up to him with a huge smile on my face and said hello.
DB was stunned and SEETHING with anger. He could only spit words out through his teeth. It was the first time in the 12 years I’ve known him that I was afraid that he would physically hurt me – he was that angry.
DB: What are you doing here?
ME: We discussed that I would be here? You look great in your costume.
DB: I don’t want you here.
ME:
DB: I can’t believe you are here. What are you thinking?
ME: Well, I told you I would attend and you always say I need to support you more at work. So here I am.
DB: Leave. How did you even get in? You never liked my work. You don’t belong here.
ME: I told everyone I was your wife.
DB: Leave. I don’t want you here.
ME: I thought maybe we could go out after – for a drink – or coffee.
DB: I have work to do. Do whatever you want, but don’t expect me to pay any attention to you.
And with that I was dismissed. DB turned around and left me standing there alone.
THANK THE LORD for cell phones…because I don’t know that I would have had the courage to stay there if it weren’t for the amazing technology of the text. I immediately sent a text to Lisa…she told me to stay and that I could do this.
Okay –
Step three – locate at least one friendly face.
Step three accomplished. I saw a co-worker who I was friendly with, Kerry, and we began to talk. She invited me to sit with her and another of DB’s co-workers. We chatted about nothing – all the while I wanted to throw up. I have NEVER been so nervous in my entire life.
Then, SB walked by. She looked straight at me – utterly shocked, turned on her heel and immediately ran over to DB. DB and SB had a whispered conference with pointed fingers and all.
I mean seriously, is this middle school??????
With Lisa’s help, I stood my ground. I watched DB interact with SB and look at her while she was presenting. I never in a million years thought that this would really be happening. They looked like a couple and watched each other like a couple. She took pictures of him, looked directly at me when she walked by, smiled and waved to her friends that were sitting near me. DB just continued to glare from across the room.
I sat through the entire two and a half hour function. At the end, I was so mentally exhausted that I wanted to just go home and die. BUT, Lisa wouldn’t let me. She told me to wait by DB’s office because he had to go back to his office and get his things.
LISA: After all, you are his wife. He needs to deal with this and you cannot let SB take over.
Step four: Wait for DB and take a stand.
So I went to DB’s office and waited.
He rounded the corner with Chris, another co-worker, and you wouldn’t believe the stunned look on DB’s face. In an instant it switched to vivid anger and even rage. Since DB refused to introduce me to Chris – I introduced myself. At that moment, in the eyes of Chris I knew that people at work knew what was going on between DB and SB – and holy #$%@@$% the repercussions of this were monumental for me, us, and our family.
DB: I have to stay and clean up. Then I’m going out with everyone.
ME: Okay – we can go out. Which car would you like to take?
DB: I don’t want you to go.
Well, of course not you tool – you want to hang out with SB – how stupid do you think I am??? I’ve already come this far don’t you even think that this is going to end without you coming home.
Something must have clicked for DB because he told me he would be ready in about five minutes.
DB gathered his things and we walked out of the building. He went straight for his car – didn’t talk to me, look at me, or acknowledge me. It was horrible outside and he watched me walk to my car as he drove through the parking lot. When I made it into the car I realized my phone had died and there was no way for me to call Lisa. I was on my own. I can do this. I could do this. My mama didn’t raise a weak and pathetic fool….I need to get a grip and fight for my family. And damn it DB – you will not dictate what happens to me, us, or our family.
DB followed me home. We both walked into the house, but what happened next, not even I could have guessed.